The more high-pitched their usual speaking voice is, the more likely it is that you are talking to a gay person. The first thing to take note of when deciding someone’s sexuality on their behalf, namely whether a man is gay or not, is to observe how high-pitched their voice is. Here are some tell-tale signs that someone is a gay or lesbian: There is a specific skill to identifying those of us who are. There’s no need to think about the reliability or accuracy of your data collection because you don’t have any, so just launch straight in. After all, it is much more prestigious than being awarded a Rhodes Scholarship. Frame it as an insurmountable achievement of yours. Before you begin your Freudian psychoanalysis, make sure to mention that you have a ‘gay-dar’, and don’t forget to detail how accurate it is and has always been.